The other day I met with Jane (not her real name) at my office in Ottawa. She wanted to talk about acting under a Power of Attorney for her aging mother. Recently, her mom had forgotten to pay a bill and missed an appointment … very unusual for her mom who had always been super organized. Jane is anxious and wonders if it may be time to start helping her mom manage her affairs and, if it is, how to go about taking over.
Naturally, Jane was finding the situation very stressful and was concerned about doing the right thing. Jane confided that there was some animosity between herself and her brother and she didn’t want things to get worse.
After assuring Jane that her apprehension was normal, I gave Jane five tips:
- Educate yourself by seeking out information about the two kinds of Power of Attorneys (financial vs personal care), how acting under a Power of Attorney differs from guardianship, when to act, what an attorney should and shouldn’t do, and what an attorney must absolutely do given the responsibilities that come with the job.
- Establish good record-keeping practices as it is essential that someone acting under a Power of Attorney keep detailed records of all decisions and the reasons for making such decisions as well as an accounting (copies of receipts, cheques, deposits, bills paid, etc.) of all transactions.
- Be willing and ready to ask for help by seeking the advice of professionals including financial advisors, accountants, medical professionals, and lawyers.
- Remember to take care of yourself as you simply cannot take care of others if you don’t also take care of yourself.
- Keep your mom (as much as she is able) and other family members in the loop as you have a duty to try to explain matters to your mom and encourage her participation in decision-making to the extent she is able as well as a duty to cooperate with supportive family and close friends. At the same time, you generally have a duty to maintain confidentiality as to your mom’s finances.
At the end of our meeting, Jane was noticeably more relaxed. Comfort and peace of mind often comes from being prepared and feeling in control of the situation whether looking after your own or someone else’s affairs. This was a good reminder for Jane to ensure that her own estate planning documents (her Will and Powers of Attorney) were in order.
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